• Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    9 days ago

    13? How many of their friends have phones because I would assume their using phones, just not one you gave them and I know from experience other parents do not do the most basic of filtering in their kids devices.

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      9 days ago

      I’m pretty sure the goal behind the no phone rule is not that utilizing a phone is inherently bad, but that you’re trying to avoid building the habits and behavior that comes with having a smart phone on you, like doom scrolling, constant social media access, constant distraction etc. And in that case, the kid having some limited access to other kids phones (If they even do. Who among any of us just lets someone else use our phone unrestricted) isn’t going to undermine that effort.

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        9 days ago

        The raise your child to use a device appropriately. Waiting until they are a teenager is far too late to form the appropriate habits around self limiting screen time.

        I get that no one wants to blame the device but this is clearly a parenting issue and I say this as someone who has on average raised far more children than anyone in my generation.

        But go ahead and lean into the articles that blame on the evil algorithms and the evil corporations. Personal and parental responsibility is hard anx blaming outside influences is easy.

        Raise your children or someone else will do it for you.

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          9 days ago

          Waiting until they are a teenager is far too late to form the appropriate habits around self limiting screen time.

          Given that smartphones didn’t even exist until I was a teenager, going to go ahead and call bullshit on that.

          this is clearly a parenting issue

          Sure is. Too many parents handing their developing children smartphones long before they should. Luckily OP hasn’t made that mistake.

          And nobody needs articles to tell them the corporations and algorithms are evil. Some of us are old enough to have lived through the advent of them.

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          9 days ago

          But they are raising their children.

          Without a phone.

          The algorithms have been proven to be addictive. Do you really think Facebook is your friend? You are their product, not their consumer.