• demizerone@lemmy.world
    3·
    2 days ago

    I had multiple women tell me they want to fuck in high school and I was so dumb to not get the message. One was basically jumping on my dick. I masturbated to some of these ladies for years until I eventually lost my virginity when I was 24. I hated myself for many years for not getting the message. 😂

  • j4k3@lemmy.worldEnglish
    14·
    3 days ago

    So what would you say?

    I would assume it was bait. I’d respond something like, “Schrödinger’s cat is both alive and dead until you look in the box.”

        • kambusha@sh.itjust.works
          2·
          2 days ago

          Good for you. Definitely had rejections. Sometimes we didn’t match, sometimes I was the asshole (realised after), sometimes they were.

            • kambusha@sh.itjust.works
              2·
              2 days ago

              Finding someone organically is the best way, for sure. But of course it’s also a numbers game. I believe in love, but not soulmates. Relationships are work in the end. Find someone you want to grow old with. Happy that you’ve stuck to your guns, worked on yourself, and that’s helped you find compatible partners. It’s the right way to approach it, I think.

    • ebolapie@lemmy.world
      31·
      2 days ago

      Bait for what? Perhaps I am simply old, but why is it so unthinkable that a girl would think you are cute?

      • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        4·
        2 days ago

        In high school I would have people ask me out. If you say yes, what a fucking loser you thought I was serious? If you say no, then you’re gay and you should kill yourself. It’s funny because you can see the divide in this thread between people fucked up by high school and people who find getting fucked up by high school unthinkable

      • j4k3@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        2 days ago

        Bait for embarrassing the person. It depends on the person and context. I was often teased like this by people in school because I was quite susceptible to emotional manipulation. The note is not asking the person out. The note is asking for a reaction to a hypothetical situation without any commitment to actually asking. The intelligent reply is an equally indecisive hypothetical response saying “if you’re uncommitted, so am I, try again” while also protecting from the potential for a trap. Plus if the person does not have the depth to understand the volley, the answer is a solid no.