So my girlfriend apologises compulsively. I find it easy to talk to her about the reasons why she may do that; however, she posed to me a question today which I found a little more tricky to answer:
How do I feel when I tell her to stop apologising, and why do I feel the need to tell her to stop apologising?
It’s honestly something I never gave thought to before. It is a very, very minor annoyance - to the point where I feel calling it an ‘annoyance’ is too harsh - but I don’t actually know why I feel the need to tell her stop doing it all the time.
I’m hoping someone can help me put it into words. So I ask you, Lemmy: how does it feel when someone apologises too much, and why do you feel the need to tell them to stop apologising?
It makes me want to understand and listen to them more because I know from my past that when people apologize to much it’s usually because a lot of trauma and bad people in there past, so instead of saying they should stop, I just simply respond to the apology positively, like “no problem” or " totally ok. No worries". Give them time to trust me and know that do it out of fear and repetition and it’s a reflex from there traumatic past.