So my girlfriend apologises compulsively. I find it easy to talk to her about the reasons why she may do that; however, she posed to me a question today which I found a little more tricky to answer:
How do I feel when I tell her to stop apologising, and why do I feel the need to tell her to stop apologising?
It’s honestly something I never gave thought to before. It is a very, very minor annoyance - to the point where I feel calling it an ‘annoyance’ is too harsh - but I don’t actually know why I feel the need to tell her stop doing it all the time.
I’m hoping someone can help me put it into words. So I ask you, Lemmy: how does it feel when someone apologises too much, and why do you feel the need to tell them to stop apologising?
When someone over apologizes it makes me uncomfortable and lowers my trust of them. Are they actually sorry? Is this something they do consistently and then apologize for? Are they doing it on purpose and using the apology as a means to ask forgiveness instead of permission? Is it something they should even be apologizing for? It makes me feel like they are not actually apologetic and then I dont trust their sincere apology when they legitimately apologize.