I was told blue looks good on me by a girl.
10 years later, most of my shirts are blue.
Purple for me. Fortunately I like it too.
I hope she wasn’t colour blind 😬
Turns out she was making a BJ joke and occasionally lies awake cringing at the joke that everyone missed.
“You smell so nice” - a gay female co-worker. I was wearing a new cologne that I purchased for myself. It was very expensive so I’m glad I chose well
Everytime the cashier flips the tablet over before a tip, they say a compliment. I always tip more than I usually do.
They got you good
“If I wasn’t a lesbian, I’d 100% date you”
Normally, I’d write this off as someone “letting me down easy”, but this was my best friend in High school that I knew for years, so I know the sentiment was genuine.
I’m an ugly woman and I remember getting a compliment from someone at dunkin. It was another woman, but she said I looked pretty. I think to this day she’s the only person who has complimented me that wasn’t a friend or something. 😅
I’ve had plenty of men yell out “huge bitch” and what have you though. 🤷🏿♀️
I don’t imagine they were quoting Deuce Bigalow?
Some of them definitely were. They said it with the inflection and everything. 😂
I work in hospitality. I get women multiple times a day asking if I sing, act or do radio work
A little kindness can go a long way. Remember to just compliment so. every once in a while, just for the sake of it. It could make their day.
in the psych ward because verbal abuse from my mom bc I’m trans (among other reasons),
“woah how that XXX left, there’s only girls here!”
It’s the sweetest thing anybody other than my sister has told me
Girls have a super power they can use to live rent free in any guy’s head pretty much eternally. All they need to do is catch them off guard with a compliment.
A guy will keep a shirt until it literally disintegrates if one time a girl said “that color looks good on you.” Pretty much every guy that wears a particular cologne, wears that cologne because at some point a girl said he smelled nice. It’s not even a horny brain thing I don’t think. It’s just that guys get so few compliments on their appearance that every single one is massively precious to them.
girls would do this more often but there’s always the (justified tbh) fear that the guy will take it the wrong way and get weird about it :(
It’s absolutely justified fear. For every one guy who will just take it as a sweet compliment, there are ten guys who will think “she wants the D!”
Honestly I don’t think the ratio is that bad… But it doesn’t have to be, when just one creep can ruin your life…
You fuck one goat…
Is that an order?
It wasn’t a question
It goes both ways I think too. Guys wouldn’t obsess over the idea that a single compliment might be flirting if they were more used to compliments in general from both sexes. On the other hand some guys are so afraid of misreading a compliment or normal friendliness that they can’t tell when someone actually is flirting. I sort of think there need to be more voices out there meant to speak directly to men and masc people about social literacy that aren’t trying to turn them into hateful, violent, incel republicans.
hard agree, it’s a tragedy that toxic masculinity has taken over that space. I’m not the target audience being nb but I have a lot of respect for the Speeed yt channel for doing exactly that.
I’ve always bought my husband red shirts because I think he looks good in a bold red color. About 17 years of marriage before he finally told me he doesn’t really care for the color, that he just wants to look good for me.
awee 🙄 (I can’t find the sweet teary eyed emoji, pretend this is that one)
I (afab) intentionally give my male friends and coworkers lots of non sexual compliments, and it’s been a mixed bag for people I don’t know well. I genuinely love men’s business wear, so I frequently go for a comment about what they’re wearing (think “I like your shirt” or “that’s a cool pattern,” not “that shirt makes your eyes pop” or “you look sexy in that shirt”), and about a third of the time, they still seem to think I’m coming on to them. Since I got married and wear my wedding ring, that’s down to about a quarter.
non-sexual
“You look sexy in that shirt”
I mean…
You missed the word “not” there I guess?
I’m not good at reading comprehension.
I agree. Tim Cruise is short.
how is the eyes pop one also in the not category
I try not to compliment men’s physical attributes. Given that around a quarter of them still react like I’m flirting when I compliment the pattern they have on while I’m wearing a wedding ring, I don’t want to go any further, lol. Maybe I should have said non-flirty instead of nonsexual though, because I agree, that’s not a sexual comment.
yeah that makes sense
That’s an example of a compliment I don’t give. I’m not trying to start something I don’t want to finish and I don’t want to finish anything.
In my defense, I am very drunk and I do look sexy in that shirt thank you very much
In 1998, the young lady working the cash register at the taco bell near where I worked told me I have really pretty eyes. So I have that going for me, which is nice.
It’s crazy how few times in an average man’s life he gets real compliments on clothing or looks. It happens so rarely most of us can tell you about the times even when they’re 20 years ago.
Speaking from first hand experience: try growing a handlebar mustache (if you can). If you groom it well you will get complimented all the time. I’m a fairly generic looking guy without the stache, and almost never got complimented on my looks before I grew it.
Similarly if you grow a John brown beard but condition it that worked for me as a 18 year old but that was 12 years ago so ymmv. Also admittedly I was apparently hot
Muttonstache also works
I try to be mindful of this (I compliment people fairly frequently when I’m out of the house), and I still find that I don’t really ‘notice’ men as much as women (I am asexual, so it is not an attraction thing either.) I think it’s because a lot of women’s clothing is varied, lots of different and interesting patterns and color combinations and cuts and styles. Men’s fashion tends to be pretty… similar? The times I remember noticing and complimenting men has usually been when they’ve worn a t-shirt with an anime or something I like on it. One time I saw a guy with these really cool, vibrant sleeve tattoos too and I mentioned how much I like those.
Not that I’m saying it’s men’s faults–men’s casual fashion seems to really stake itself on being ‘plain’ and ‘simple’. All the t-shirts look the same, just in different solid colors. Plain jeans are plain jeans. Cargo shorts are cargo shorts. It’s easy to let your eyes sort of slide past it without registering much. Almost like social camouflage!
My husband wears a lot of 90s nostalgia t-shirts and he gets compliments on them!
I’m pretty average looking but I have a cool looking cloak and I get a compliment literally every time I wear it because it pops. It’s different.
As a wearer of nerdy t-shirts, i appreciate you! 😁
And honestly, I’m happier that way. The less I’m noticed, the happier I am, generally speaking. I’m an introvert and feel obligated to spend some “social energy” whenever a random stranger says something to me. They might compliment my kid or ask about something I’m wearing or whatever, and I need to respond to that in some socially appropriate form.
I’m not socially anxious or awkward or anything, I just don’t like putting in the effort. So I generally avoid the things that would lead to random social interaction.
2 I have had 2 on the exact same shirt. I have no idea where that shirt is and it is my favourite shirt because of those compliments.
Anon’s tombstone:
“She really liked my voice.”
I’m not saying anything about right or wrong or societies roles, but I don’t even think it’s hyperbole to say my wife has been complimented thousands of times more then I have in our lives. It’s incredibly rare for me to get a compliment from a stranger, and even then it’s usually from other guys saying they like some item I’m wearing. It really does feel fucking incredible when it happens because it’s so insanely rare. And not to toot my own horn too much, but I’m not that bad looking, so I can’t imagine what it’s like for people with less fortune than I have in their appearance.
I’ve received two compliments from women out of the blue in my life. The first time was when a coworker told me i had a nice voice and should do voice acting for anime. That was 2006.
The second was another coworker said “at least you’re cute” to some offhand joke i made. That was 2018.
At that rate, I expect another nice comment around 2032 or so.
omg my last one was in 2018 as well. we can be besties
I had a girl compliment my voice too ! I was maybe 17, had her on the phone, she was a friend’s friend. Then we met and she ostensibly lost all her excitement
Many years ago, my girlfriend’s grandma said I had a good voice for radio. I misheard her, thought she said a good face for radio. I didn’t react badly at the time, because being polite and all, but I didn’t like her grandma for a while. Then it came out what she had really said, girlfriend had a big laugh. I don’t remember what grandma thought of it, I was a little too embarrassed to have any attention to spare…
hah ! misunderstandings sometimes have lasting effects on our lives
Oof, that hurts.
The data indicates 12 years which would be 2030.
That’s a lot more optimistic!
I’m assuming that there’ll be an additional wait period. They are experiencing heavy call volume at this time.
It’s austerity now, so we can probably expect a bit of deflation on the compliment market, pushing back projected compliment growth rates.
In my projections I have substituted the loss in volume with AI bots and OF girls.
I’m not a woman, but I think you type nicely.
Thanks, sugar!
