my bf is poly and already has a bf, so he doesn’t want to initiate anything with me. he doesn’t wanna call nor hang out, and he always texts very dry. he’s nice, but i don’t feel loved.

I’m not doing well mentally though. my gf already ignores me (she and i are poly too) and i feel like i will die if he breaks up (though i clearly won’t die)

  • vvilld@lemmy.world
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    21 hours ago

    Are you sure you’re really dating? If he doesn’t call, doesn’t want to hang our, doesn’t initiate anything, and is very dry in his texting it sounds like he’s just a distant acquaintance…

  • Porto881@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Posts like these have taught me to run for the hills the second someone mentions being “poly.”

  • WoodScientist@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    2 days ago

    So this person doesn’t want to call or hang out with you, never initiates anything, doesn’t make you feel loved, and just sends soulless loveless texts like they are sending a work email?

    Sorry to be blunt, but what makes you think this person is your boyfriend?

    • drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
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      2 days ago

      well he does but he feels bad bc he has a bf he has been dating longer.

      sometimes he’ll send the occasional heart emojis if i do first

      “They mostly just type like this.

      Hello

      I’m fine, what about you?

      Sorry, I can’t hang out. I don’t want my boyfriend to be upset.”