Why, a hexvex of course!
Language kid.
If you get drunk, hook up with another drunk person, and end up pregnant, who exactly is to blame? Your life choices are hardly stellar (nor are theirs); you can argue they should have known better, but so should you.
That ship on that blame has long since sailed. It sailed by the night before when you were both laying your regrets.
Risk now comes from your choices and theirs, and oh my won’t that be fun?
Let me offer a scenario; two drunk people who wouldn’t normally go near each other spend a night together. The morning comes, regret is in the air for both parties, which of these two people is most at risk?
The correct answer is: “the one who doesn’t accuse the other on social media”.
Just remember, no-one gave any indication of gender there. It’s not really about gender at this point - it’s the fact we’ve constructed a world where a casual encounter has the potential to become the prisoner’s dilemma if it is regretted afterwards.
That’s not a world where people take risks on a date, especially if physical intimacy is on the cards. To much risk!
Misandry is where you see men as the problem - nothing more or less. It’s easy to quote stats, it’s much harder to address the real issues underneath.
Ah, misandry, my old friend.
To be entirely unbiased here, this covers user friendly distros that pretty much blow windows away for “default experience”.
Windows has adware and scareware - more so it has config-cluster-fuckification (I believe this is the academic term for it?). This is where windows lost me - when it started bundling basic config options together to force you to relinquish your privacy. Now it’s “edit the registry or gtfo”…
I mean, build on that idea a little further.
Sex is an extreme example, but now consider the cases of opening up a bit; showing emotional vulnerability; taking that first step of trust; telling that special someone you actually do love to play with Lego.
All of these carry the same risks for all involved - the social ramifications of a failed attempt to bond is somewhat higher than in our current “clout hunting” era (remember, clout doesn’t just exist online).
Relationships are complex critters - some are built on risk, some are built on the aversion of such, and some are built upon a complex dance between the two (for what is life but a twistedly beautiful lottery)?