Revolt is F/OSS

https://github.com/revoltchat/

It’s not just a company with a clone of Discord, all the server back end, etc is open.

it is illogical and self destructive to let an external being have power over my happiness, health, satisfaction, human experience… especially if this being is heavily influenced by tech companies (instagram, facebook, apple), media (hollywood, netflix, movies, shows, music), governments, religions and her friends who are also heavily influenced.

Bro, this is not how relationships work. You need to step back and get a better perspective on the real world. Relationships are equal partnerships. They should generally make both partners better people, not suck the life out of one or the other.