Yeah, I’ve always felt like forced sex sounds hotter than it actually is. It sounds so romantic, and everyone thinks they can get in the mood as soon as their partner wants them, but the reality doesn’t quite line-up the same. A pretty key part of any consensual non-consent is setting up a word to break the scene though, so I dunno if I’d beat yourself up too much about it. If she wasn’t in the mood, she should have let you know.
Basically like she said, you both have to happen to be horny in the moment anyways or it’s just a shit time. Use a safeword to stop when not into it, instead of actually saying stop. It’s usually just a roleplay fetish anyways.
I did try to set a safe word prior to that incident but she laughed it off and said we didn’t need one. Fortunately things never got really ugly, even if this is not the only crazy fantasy she pestered me with.
Yeah, I’ve always felt like forced sex sounds hotter than it actually is. It sounds so romantic, and everyone thinks they can get in the mood as soon as their partner wants them, but the reality doesn’t quite line-up the same. A pretty key part of any consensual non-consent is setting up a word to break the scene though, so I dunno if I’d beat yourself up too much about it. If she wasn’t in the mood, she should have let you know.
Basically like she said, you both have to happen to be horny in the moment anyways or it’s just a shit time. Use a safeword to stop when not into it, instead of actually saying stop. It’s usually just a roleplay fetish anyways.
I did try to set a safe word prior to that incident but she laughed it off and said we didn’t need one. Fortunately things never got really ugly, even if this is not the only crazy fantasy she pestered me with.
Yikes, laughing at wanting a safe word is a huge red flag IMO. Sounds like you dodged a bullet in the end.
The best part is, she’s 15 years older than me, she should have been more experienced and level-headed about her kinks.
I’m a bit slow, it took me a decade to dodge it.