This has impacted my life so negatively I don’t even know where to start.
My friends and I started drinking at 17 and went out almost every weekend. Every year we had huge events like festivals (Germany has many) and well those were like 3 days being drunk in a row.
If i could turn back time I’d probably just tell myself to not do it and probably do it again anyways.
I’m getting invested in the gym and it’s so good. I wonder how I’d look like today if I would have just been at the gym in my 20s.
Not only that. I wonder how my friend circle would look like cause currently I have no friends I’d consider “friends”. Those were all drinking buddies. They still drink every weekend and more and more I realised they are just functioning alcoholics.
And since I don’t drink anymore (2 years) I’m basically out.
So I’d say alcohol didn’t only have a negative impact on my brain while I was still young (and after) it also hit my wallet, my time for better things (sports)… etc.
Man. Sucks. Sucks to be me.
Now I am happy I have a wife, a house and going in the right direction but it is soooo hard to find friends or atleast people if you aren’t in school anymore and coworkers busy with own life.
If I could give anyone younger advice I’d just stay screw it and go to the gym and find a hobby like climbing, swimming, golfing, tennis or something and get people there.
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Congratulations on no longer drinking! personally, instead of regret I would be happy to have experienced that kind of life and then turn it around.
Is it common and easy to own your own home in your 20’s in Germany?
You can do both.
You can go drink and have fun and do hookah or whatever else on some (or even most) weekends in college and still be fit, still develop a hobby, and still do well in school.
You can also do those things but not apply yourself to anything else and BLAME THEM for holding you back… But 🤷.
You can also overdo it and have these vices slowly take over your life anyway, but you quit, so that probably isn’t you. The former one might be.
I’m trying to stop drinking now to improve my sleep quality and I quit hookah when my son was conceived, but as long as it’s not hard drugs I’m pretty sure you can just be a kid and be successful no matter what. Sorry you feel like you weren’t.
Edit: here’s my partying ass at 34 with my wife before kids. After weekends of fun and hookah every day for like 5 years and over 1000 lb squat, deadlift, and bench press. Don’t blame alcohol on your life being kinda shitty unless it’s actively making your life shitty. We are both DR. AND our daughter isn’t 5 yet. I’d be happy to discuss my fitness plan or my PhD. But the point is you can have fun in college and be successful, but if you didn’t, it sure as shit is probably on you. @[email protected]
Edit2: this picture is from an all inclusive resort in Costa Rica where we spent 6 days drinking our asses off with my little brother and a couple we also met in college in the same boat. I’m almost 40 now but I’m ready for any battle of strength, wits, or charm. Two kids in, I’m not a whole hell of a lot worse looking :).
Well, you tackled your affliction and you still have the rest of your life ahead of you. You are in a pretty good spot, even if it could have been better otherwise.
Keep up what you have achieved and work toward gaining the things you haven’t yet.
Yeah could be. But how do I know how much I damaged my brain the last decade with all this drinking “for fun”?
Does it matter? If you could quantify your lost potential, would such knowledge benefit you in any way? I understand the drive to understand your major life mistakes as deeply as possible, but you’ve already made great strides to learn from and correct said mistakes. You seem to be on a pretty strong upward trajectory, but if you obsess over what’s lost, it just might drag you back down.
Such is life. You are always going to look back and have regrets and imagine how you could have done better. Reassess and use that knowledge to do better in the future but don’t get hung up in the past
Booze is good fun, but not if you’re prone to dependency on substances. I really like booze to heighten a mood a bit more, but there’s a point where I don’t like it anymore. I think there’s quite a few people that never recognise their personal boundary when it approaches and then it flies on by.
Like almost everything in life—substances, exercise, sun, food—moderation is key. Enjoy too much of a good thing and it’ll start harming you.
If it helps at all, I didn’t spend my younger years drinking, and I’m still considered friends with most of the people I made friends with in my 20’s. However, I almost never see and/or talk them anymore, just because life gets busy, and it becomes harder to maintain contact. It’s still hard for me to find new friends and people to hang out with. I believe that particular struggle is a pretty shared experience regardless of what our younger selves did. It’s entirely possible that even if you didn’t spend your younger days drinking, that “friend circle” would be just as absent as it is now.
I think you’re doing great, and the advice of going to the gym and finding a hobby is great advice for yourself too, that’s how I met the friends I have now. it’s a great way to find people who are busy with life, but have made time in their life for their hobby, and you can share that time with them, and badda bing badda boom, friendship.
a finger on the monkey’s paw curls
Your wish is granted, and you immediately die from 8 years of accumulated dehydration happening all at once.
*at least. Maybe you should purchase a dictionary since you missed an education.
How good is your german?
Lol calm down mate
