Universal Monk

Congratulations you lived in a different world.

And I’m still in this world. Dude I still date. I’m only in my 50’s. I’m not even as old as Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise.

I’ll pass. You keep doing drugs. I’ll keep fucking. Drugs aren’t my thing. But hey, no hate. You do you.

Sex with someone you love is the best thing.

It is! But sex with someone ya don’t love is pretty awesome too!

First off: dating is fucking expensive, and unfortunately standard gender roles means the dude foots the bill most of the time.

Not an excuse for most Lemmy users. Most American Lemmy users make far more than the average American. I have seen Lemmy users legit bitch that they only make $80K a year. That’s more than I ever made a year in my entire working life. And I never had a problem dating.

It’s a personality issue, not a money issue.

As someone who is a bit shorter than average and is socially awkward, it’s tough.

You can fix the socially awkward part. And women aren’t as obsessed with height as Lemmy and the interwebs make them out to be.

It wasn’t “Do not, under any circumstances, speak to a woman” it was, “if you shoot your shot and she’s not interested, move on and don’t make it weird. If she is at work, be very careful as customer service does not equal flirting.”

Yes. I’m amazed so many people are missing this. I’ve dated a lot of women. And when I’ve asked someone out and it didn’t work out, ya shrug, laugh it off and move on. It’s not THAT personal. I’ve turned down others too. It’s the same thing. Some people click with you, some done. Lemmy users seem to take a rejection way too personally.

When your mom angrily throws out a Victoria’s Secret catalog calling it “disgusting” how are you supposed to feel about liking the pictures?

How about not thinking that since you are no longer a child listening to your mother?

Despite this, for my entire life, sex has just been a thing that you don’t talk about.

But that’s all on YOU. I have more women friends that guy friends, and women talk about sex a lot. More so than guys in my experience.

Dude, you’re an adult. Doesn’t matter how you were raised, you are obviously smart enough to unprogram yourself from your upbringing.

Enough negative experiences reinforce and define behavior.

Unless you don’t let them.

IDK why you think every individual magically changing is something realistic.

To be honest, it doesn’t sound like you want to change. You are so resistant to it.

and you get another lecture for saying hi

I’ve never ever had that happen. And I’m old enough to have fucked your grandma when she was still young and cute.

I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, but I just don’t think it’s nearly as common as Lemmy likes to believe.

Exactly right! Great post!

This is it. I feel like I am inflicting myself on women. That I am a problem for them simply for existing.

And that attitude and thought process is exactly why you would have a hard time dating. Don’t think like that, friend.

People in this thread are fucking wild

Right?! Fucking Lemmy, man… Reading this posts makes me realize why these guys can’t get a date! lol

I’ve never had an issue getting laid, and I’m not attractive or rich. I am lean and 6ft, but that’s not nearly is important to women as Lemmy thinks it is. It’s really about just talking to people.

I’ve never ever had an issue striking up conversations with people. From what I have seen in this thread and others, LOTS of Lemmy users do have issue with talking to people in real life. lol

and women have constantly stated they want to be left alone.

I haven’t seen this in the real world at all. lmao

It’s a Lemmy problem. The real world isn’t even close to what these Lemmy posters are saying. lmao

Works this way even if you are not attractive. Source: I have a face like a foot, and have no problem dating.

Love your attitude. I won’t forgive your crocs. We gotta draw a line somewhere, man…

Well said!

Admittedly, I also am autistic, socially anxious,

Which I think explains a LOT of Lemmy users. Even more so than Reddit users.

Both. It’s not that hard to do.